HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!
Yesterday was my birthday. I was down to 194. Up to 195 today. I guess that isn't so bad after eating a piece of cake yesterday. I know but I had to. My husband had a ---t fit when I said I didn't want a piece. You see he said He was trying to be sweet and do something nice, but that I was being a butt and he wouldn't do anything for me again. Okay he knows I'm on a diet and that is what he gives me for a present, a cake. Not even a card, just cake and ice cream. That's it. I think if anyone has the right to be pissed it's me. Am I being unreasonable here? Sorry to vent. Hope everyone else is doing great.
posted by tkmangham at
6:19 AM
11 Comments:
Hi Teresa,
lol I would smack my husband if he did that. He had to give you the guilt trip too! I am with you on this one!!
Sometimes people have a hard time excepting change. Sounds like hubbie may be afraid of your new determination. He'll get over it! Happy late birthday!
Huh - okay just a few questions... He did HCG, so he knows the protocol... (And I'm not trying to stir anything here) Is he trying to sabotage your success? I've read of some men becoming insecure and have even dated a few that didn't want me to loose weight because they thought I would leave them and/or it was a jealousy/control factor that they didn't want other men looking at me because I was theirs. Maybe you could gently probe? Or read the book by Dr. Laura "The Care and Feeding of Husbands" I've seen it do wonders in marriages.
There's my 2-cents, take it or leave.
Blessings,
Toni
Teresa, you are right. That was sabotage on the highest order. Tsk, tsk, tsk! Some husbands seem to be threatened by their wives becoming more attractive. He needs to realize that doing things like this to mess you up is just going to make it MORE likely that he will lose you after you lose the weight, and that he needs to respect your choices and your commitment rather than to bully you into going off the diet because he's so insecure. After all, doesn't he care about your health? Or is it more important for him to feel certain that no one else would want you because you are overweight? I hope that he gets a better perspective and quits this sabotage ploy. Don't let him do that to you again. It is not right. I hope that this honest appraisal of his behavior doesn't offend you, but to be frank, I am holding back from cursing, I am so upset for you. Here you are doing your level best to improve your life and the person who is supposed to care most for you in this world is doing his best to ruin it for you. He had better start reevaluating and begin a plan to become worthy of the new you instead of what he's doing now. Well, I'd better quit now before I start calling him names. ;-)
Cindy
Teresa,
I'm right there with everybody else, being upset on your behalf - SHAME on your husband, WHO KNOWS BETTER, for sabotaging your success. You just stick to your guns, girlfriend - and don't let his insecurity undermine your weight loss. What you're doing is improving your health for a lifetime. You're going to look and feel fabulous when it's all done. Please don't let him ruin that for you - you CAN do this!
I wholeheartedly agree with Cindy's comments. Where's the support? stick to your guns girl and ignore anything that isn't 100% supportive. If you have to question anything he says or does, I'd err on the side of caution and proceed in "I can't hear or see you mode!"
I had a similar problem. Change is scary for lots of guys. He thinks he understands the dynamics of your current relationship and if you lose the weight all that will change. Guys are also lazy and like to stick with a known quantity rather than work on something new. You must think of being there for your kids as a healthy mom, your own self image and long term health will be so much better without additional weight. Ignore his pitiful attempts at sabotage and you go girl!!!
Good thing I wasn’t eating when I first read your intro – “My husband did the HCG diet and it worked for him. He lost about 80 lbs … My husband said it was expensive and he isn't willing to pay for me to do it too” - or I would’ve choked! I thought to myself, “So, he believes his health is worth the cost of doing the diet, but not hers?!?!?!?!? What an inconsiderate jerk!”
Now I read that he’s sabotaging your efforts! What is up with this man? How does he justify his actions? No gift, no card - just cake, WHEN HE KNOWS WHAT YOU'RE GOING THROUGH?!!!!
Honey, you deserve MUCH better. (okay, I'm off my soapbox)
Why is it ok for your husband to spend the money on HCG for himself and refuse to let you do the same thing? Maybe you should tell him he needs to spend some cash on counseling to find out what's really up with him or you'll consider other options. hbasusant
Your health should be #1 to both of you. Belated Happy Birthday and don't let anyone stand in the way of your health!!!
haha i guess its a bit late but anywayz happy birthday teresa!!!
you tell em susan!
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